As 2012 came to a close, many folks spent the final moments of the year reflecting and taking retrospective trips back into the year that was. Over here at Le Femme Flaneur, however, we opted not to look backwards and take inventory on the ups and downs of the past year because frankly, ain’t nobody got time for that. Instead, we decided to look ahead and ask ourselves some pertinent questions as we embark on this new journey called “Twenty Thirteen.”
Since a new year does not guarantee progress or changes, what is one aspect of your life in which you reserve no expectations for the New Year?
E: Trick question for me, here. As I complete each calendar year, I feel like I always make changes, whether they are additions or subtractions, I’ve always experienced growth. No difference in 2013, bruh. I won’t accept complacency or stagnancy in the New Year. Word.
LB: Give someone an inch and they take a mile, give a man a Twerk and he wants sex, and if you give someone a friendship many will take advantage. I have learned not to expect much from friendships and relationships without marginalizing my standards. One has to accept people for who they are and either keep ‘em, leave ‘em, or adjust her/his behavior to avoid disappointment. But there are always those friends, like E for instance, who give me faith in fulfilling friendships!
What is one interest in which you hope to indulge?
E: Simple – travel. I want to get my passport stamp game up so that I will learn, experience other communities and cultures, and kick it with my “partna dem” abroad.
LB: I have a dream, of booty shorts and bikes on a glorious summer day “ridin’ ’round and gettin it” through Brooklyn. Due to a previous car accident and general craziness of the city, I’ve been too fearful of being about that life. But, now that I’m over it and have dabbled with a ride to and fro, watch out now! Added bonuses: I will make it to the front row of cycling class, “the rent is too damn high” so I’ll cut back on the monthly metro, and I might be the one to invent a helmet that does not disturb the afro!
How do you plan to love yourself stronger?
E: Respecting my temple (aka body) by putting things in and on it that will nourish and protect it, engage in activities that will create happiness, and practice self-discipline so that I may see my ambitions to fruition.
LB: If there’s one thing that I got right in this lifetime it’s loving myself unconditionally. Check! But there’s always room for improvement, right? We love ourselves by maintaining our bodies, our psyches, and our hearts. When the going gets busy I hope to Love myself better by working out consistently. Exercise is the fountain of youth!
What memory do you want to make in the new year?
E: I would like to make the transition from employee to entrepreneur this year. That would be one of my biggest dreams come true. Also, I want a ring on it. My mom keeps asking me for grandkids. Let’s make her happy, bruh.
LB: Life is comprised of many moments, some we work up to and others noooot so much. One moment I’m looking forward to working towards and contributing to the ol’ memory bank of highlights is a solo exhibition in NYC. Whether it actually occurs or I just land a booking (’cause y’all know galleries book way in advance), I’ll be quite content.
Who do you want to know your name by the end of 2013?
E: Beyonce, dream hampton, Amber Rose, Iyanya, Idris Elba, 2Chainz, Barack Obama, and your neighbors.
LB: My sister always says that if I want to make God laugh, I should tell her my plans. Although it is quite ridiculous to micro plan life, I always hoped that by this time in my path (give or take a year) that I would have met my match. Soulman where art thou? I hope that we cross paths soon and that you can pronounce my name!